This morning, I felt a familiar nudge—a reminder that life, with all its layers, isn’t something we master or finish. We aren’t projects to be managed. Healing, growth, and flourishing are recursive because life itself is alive, always moving, always inviting us to notice what’s next.
When I look back on my journey, I see seasons that I’ve named like chapters in a story. Each one reflects a layer of growth, healing, and transformation.
The Summer of Tears: The season I first learned to grieve after a childhood spent stuffing emotions down.
The Season of Boundaries: When I unearthed my codependent tendencies and learned that love without boundaries and a sense of self is not love—we cannot give what we have not received.
The Empowerment Era: Parenting, navigating marriage, and taking ownership of my creative dreams.
The Intimacy Season: Learning to slow down and draw closer to God through a two-year program to become a spiritual director.
Each chapter taught me profound lessons, but perhaps one of the hardest ones?
I am a person, not a project. I don’t have to “have it together” all the time. I am loved by God and divinly human. I don’t need to strive or prove my worth. Learning to love and treat myself with kindness opens me up to receive the love of God and others.
Now, as I sit with God, I sense a new name for the next season: Embodiment.
Embodiment: Flourishing Beyond Growth
Lately, I’ve been noticing how trauma lingers in the body—how it shows up in my desire for control, in anxiety when plans change, and in the moments I feel myself living in a fight-or-flight state instead of resting in calm, connection, and curiosity.
The truth is, flourishing isn’t just about growth or success. It includes seasons of planting, pruning (ugh, those seasons are hard), and even wintering. It’s about the strength to push through dirt toward the sun, over and over again.
Flourishing requires us to notice when something isn’t working and to ask for help. And yes, sometimes that means stepping into unfamiliar territory to find the support we need.
Three Lessons on Growth and Support for Writers
If you’re a writer, creative, or just someone trying to live a full and flourishing life, here are three lessons I’ve learned about growth and seeking help:
Healing Is Recursive: No matter how much hard work you’ve done, life will trigger new or unprocessed experiences. It’s normal (and brave) to return to therapy, coaching, or other forms of support when needed.
Support Opens New Horizons: The people closest to us may love us deeply, but sometimes we need skilled practitioners who ask the questions we don’t know to ask and provide a neutral place of safety to explore our thoughts and experiences. Their outside perspective can help us break through barriers we didn’t realize were holding us back.
Investing in Yourself Is Vital: Saying yes to support—whether a spiritual director, business coach, or therapist—isn’t a weakness. It’s wisdom. It’s about giving yourself the tools to flourish in new and deeper ways.
Why I’m Sharing This
This January, I’ll be working with a trauma-informed life coach. Saying yes to this nudge felt vulnerable. My first instinct was to dismiss it: I’ve already done so much work; I’m fine.
But fine isn’t flourishing. And God’s invitations to go deeper often come as gentle whispers that remind us there’s more.
I share this because I know how easy it is to dismiss the idea of asking for help. To think you should figure it out on your own. But life is layered, and so is healing. The nudges and signs are there when we take the time to notice them.
Are You Ready to Flourish?
If you’re a writer who feels stuck or overwhelmed—or if you’re craving deeper connection and purpose—I’d love to walk alongside you. Whether you’re looking for spiritual direction, or writing and marketing support as an author, I’m here to help you step into your next season of growth.
PS Momentum Mastermind has a few spots open if you’ve been longing for an intimate growth-focused cohort of writers (and my support) to step into your next season in 2025.
